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Self-Help:
Create a new YOU following divorce!

During my separation, I recognized that counseling, self-help books and self-improvement programs would be key to changing the way I saw myself and made future choices in order not to repeat the same mistakes I had made previously.

One of the first books I read was "In The Meantime" by Iyanla Vanzant. I got out a spiral notebook so that I could jot down thoughts and memories as I read each chapter. Once I was finished, I had a journal which provided to me an incredible revelation as to the messages and tapes which had played in my head and needed to be dismissed in order to move on to a healthier place! Excellent material!!

What is the meantime? According to author and inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant, being in the "meantime" means being in a state of limbo. "When you are not happy where you are and you are not quite sure if you want to leave or how to leave, you are in the meantime," she explains. Rather than wallow in confusion, Vanzant encourages you to use the meantime as an opportunity to prepare yourself for true love.

The first order of business is to "clean house", starting with the basement--the place in the psyche where you store your most destructive thoughts. Room by room, Vanzant takes you through a metaphorical cleansing of the soul until you reach the attic where a emotionally healthy you awaits, ready to take in a new relationship.

IN THE MEANTIME : Finding Yourself and the Love You Want>>