Can you save your marriage?Divorce should never be entered into lightly. Even if you think you have met your soulmate outside of the marriage, often you are only trading a spouse in for a different set of problems to overcome. There isn't any such thing as the "perfect person"...sometimes close, but never perfect!
If there isn't any abuse or addictions involved, it is worth a try to reconcile the differences - even if, initially, it is only one spouse doing all of the work. There are tremendous marriage counselors available in all cities, but take caution to screen them first. Are they going to help you take positive action to save your marriage, or are they more of a mind-set to prepare you for your divorce? Do NOT accept a passive therapist who simply responds, "I see" with the follow up question "..and how do you feel about that?" Psychologists have seen everything before and know the roadmap for getting out of a deadlock. Look for a counselor who listens but will also teach you, as a couple, to work out your differences. It is very difficult to repair damage which has accumulated over years, but well worth it in the end if the result is a stronger union. That having been said, I would like to relate the ephiphany I had after trying in every manner I could think of to keep my marriage together without success: A friend invited me to go for a boat ride with her husband and some other couples. I laid down on the back cushion while her husband was instructing another guest on how to drive his double-engined cruiser. The guest only pushed forward one of the throttles, so of course, the boat began to go in a circle. As I heard my friend correct her that she needed to have two throttles in the forward position in order to go straight, I jumped up with an "a-ha moment". I realized that, despite my attempts to save my marriage, I did not have my husband's cooperation; therefore, we just kept going in a vicious cycle rather than resolving our issues. At some point, you may decide to give up. If you do, walk away without guilt. You tried. Nobody can ask for more than that.
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Mort Fertel appeared on NBC, CBS, PBS, and the Fox News Network. He is a frequent guest on talk radio programs including NPR. His breakthrough work, Marriage Fitness, was profiled in The Washington Post, Family Circle, Psychology Today, Ladies Home Journal, Glamour Magazine, Fitness Magazine, The Library Journal, Women's Health, The Denver Post, The Orlando Sentinel, The Baltimore Sun, and The Toronto Sun.
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